The paradigm of what it means to be both a woman and human has slightly shifted and it has done wondrous things for men, women and youth in America.
Men are learning and appreciating. Women are becoming more confident and inspired to create and embrace communities of love, growth and truth. Through various social media platforms, youth are putting messages meant to be positive out that are becoming viral (the Power of Makeup challenge, for example).
However, it is clear that women still have a long way to go.
There has recently been a lot of controversy in the media regarding women’s “roles” and how women are viewed if they are not fulfilling every aspect of those “roles.”
For instance, on the new talk show FABLife, 41-year-old media mogul Tyra Banks and 29-year-old model Chrissy Teigen recently opened up about their fertility issues and how hurtful and potentially offensive it can be to ask women about their future of having kids. The question usually comes with a side-eye, preconceived notion that because a woman hasn’t had any, she’s not interested thus making her “selfish” or “less-than” a woman.
“I am so tired of seeing on social media, ‘Why don’t you have kids? Why don’t you have kids?’ You don’t know. You don’t know what I’m going through,” Banks said through tears.
Teigen also opened up about her fertility struggles with husband and singer, John Legend.
“Anytime someone asks me if I’m going to have kids,” she said. “I’m like, one day you’re gonna ask that to the wrong girl who is really struggling and it’s gonna be hurtful to them. And I hate that. I hate it. Stop asking me!”
The crowd of women burst in applause and cheers of agreement.
The transparency of women and their issues has caught wind and other women in media are speaking out as well.
Actress, Gabrielle Union, recently spoke out to Redbookmagazine about her struggles both with making the decision to have kids and balancing a career and potential motherhood.
“There’s a certain amount of shame that is placed on women who have perhaps chosen a career over starting a family younger. The penance for being a career woman is barrenness. You feel like you’re wearing a scarlet letter.”
Transparency in the media for women has become so significant in the fight to combat ignorance, discrimination and traditional gender roles or social norms. It helps build a bridge between men and women and foster a community of love and appreciation.
We understand the difficulties that comes with trying to fill out a “certain role” while striving to become the best in your career. Because of this, we salute all career oriented women for breaking barriers and commend women such as Banks, Teigen and Union for using their platforms to share such raw and sensitive information that is, in turn, starting the conversation and helping to change how people view women all over the world.
Now signing off with the reminder: Don’t wait for the world to recognize your greatness, live it and let the world catch up to you. #OccupyingYourMindset
Tamara Shanice is an actress, writer, lyricist and fashionable hustler who takes pride in entertaining and educating through her art. She's a wandering spirit who loves to travel the world and marvel at the works of God's paintbrush.