Jumping. Leaping. Skipping. Chasing.
What do all of these actions have in common? I’ll give you a hint: it’s not tripping. And I dare you to even murmur that it’s falling.
Well, sure, tripping and falling are possibilities.
But the most consistent factor anytime we physically exert ourselves to do any of those actions is the feeling of trust.
Because when we jump, we trust that we’re physically equipped to properly land.
And even if we fall, we’ve conditioned ourselves to believe that still, jumping is OK, because we trust that our bodies are strong enough to get back up.
We trust the power of the human body to jump, leap, skip and chase without much ado.
So why do we doubt, so much, the power of our minds when it’s time to mentally exert ourselves to do those same actions?
It’s because we aren’t taking the proper time to establish trust with our minds. Sounds daunting, but I’m here to let you know that you’re built for this (because minds like to leap too).
The first step is recognizing its power. The mind is powerful.
Remember the boogeyman? Remember how the older you got, the smaller he became and how eventually he disappeared? That’s because your mind created him. It got rid of him too.
But of course, the boogeyman got smarter. He takes different forms now. The boogeyman is doubt. He’s procrastination. He’s resistance. He’s fear. He’s the force holding you back from chasing your dreams and leaping from one life’s gap to the next. The boogeyman is as present in your mind as you allow him to be.
Once you recognize that, you must take additional steps to tame your mind. Again, it’s very powerful. If you don’t it’ll run wild and injure itself to the point of self-defeat.
And you, honey, are a winner. Defeat doesn’t look good on you.
So how do we tame our minds to get us comfortable enough to jump? To take risks? To make drastic decisions and life changes?
The second step would be to feed it. We must nourish our minds with positive thoughts. The thoughts must be consistent and intentional. They must be focused and related to your heart’s desires. Surrounding yourself with positive people and experiences related to your goals is a great place to start this.
The next step would be to maintain it. To maintain the health of our mind and properly build the trust to follow through with our life’s desires and wishes, we must be sure to pay attention to our thoughts and any outside influences. We must scrutinize our thought patterns and be sure to cut off any weeds aka negativity sprouting in the process.
And lastly, once your mind is in a strong and healthy place, you just do it. You take the jump.
Your mind would never tell you that you could do something if you couldn’t. Because it knows that even if you fall, it has the power to pick you back up even stronger than before.
OCCUPYING YOUR MINDSET EP.2 | I Hate My Body
Episode 2 of #occupyingyourmindset vlog is up and lawwwddd I can’t believe I’m speaking about this in public. This is a topic I barely even feel comfortable talking to my closest friends about. However, I did promise you all I’ll be using this series to be raw and honest sharing everything I’m going through behind the scenes, right?
Here’s to me making myself extremely vulnerable to you all.
The fact is: YOU DO MATTER
“I’d be happy if you killed yourself.”
Those are the words of a complete stranger, finding out I was transgender in a KIK chat room. Sometimes it is difficult to talk sense to a person like that. While it can be quite overwhelming, I know I have the strength within myself to no longer allow hurtful words by others affect me. Unfortunately, this is not the case for everyone. Studies have shown in 2014, there were nearly 3 suicides for every homicide. What people fail to realize is that sometimes we can be our own worst executioner, holding in thoughts and emotions we don’t allow anyone to know.
However, we can also be our most merciful savior. I know there’s a young, beautiful, and purpose driven generation that may sometimes feel overwhelmed by a hurricane. That hurricane throws work, bills, heart-wrenching breakups, gossip, judgement, and a slew of other issues people just don’t understand. While everything may seem great on the outside, people can really be hurting on the inside. For instance, Linkin Park lead singer Chester Bennington, just recently cut his life short at 41 years of age. What this individual meant to people was beyond the words he invoked on a stage or in an album. Here he was inspiring people for years through his lyrics, letting people know it’s okay to feel pain but also understanding that together we can get through it. Yet, little did we know here he was battling his own demons. Gratefully, his legacy will continue to live on through the positive impact he’s left on his fans and loved ones.
Some may think it is next to impossible to convince yourself when the mound gets too thick that
“I will come out of this”
That’s why you shouldn’t let yourself suffer alone. The fact is, you DO matter.
Often times, people compare life to that of being a book.
You write the book of your life.
Filling it – editing it – adding characters – removing characters.
All in order to make sure you use your story to grow and learn from.
If there were no obstacles or life lessons added to the chapters, ultimately the book is just one big bore.
Yes, at times it may seem really difficult but don’t let your story end this way. Continue pushing forward to change the narrative. Continue pushing forward to change the ending. You have it in you to make your story a great one.
This is something that took me a while to learn. Thankfully, in the midst of my own struggles, I sought out help even though all I felt like doing was being alone. I want you to know that no matter how deep it goes, you are cherished and are loved.
We need to change the fact that suicide is the second leading cause of death among people from ages 15-24. If you are not in a position where you feel like you are suffering, then you are in a position to embrace and help someone. You don’t need a degree or special certification to be there for someone in need. Just offer someone a shoulder to cry on, an embrace to hold onto and a smile to share. It may not seem like much but those simple actions can really help in some way.
Believe it or not, these small actions can cause the biggest impact in helping a lost, wounded soul find resolve and purpose.
For all of those that are suffering in silence, do not be afraid to reach out and get the support and closure you need. You need to keep writing the next significant chapter in your inspiring life.
In case you or someone you know needs support, here are some resources:
Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK
Crisis Text Line, the free, nationwide, 24/7 text message service for people in crisis, is here to support. For support in the United States, text HELLO to 741741 or message at facebook.com/CrisisTextLine.
For support outside the US, find resources at http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html
5 Questions You Should Ask Yourself During Your Mid-20s
Growing up the phrase, “life is too short”, really boggled me. “We have 80+ years to live, how is life short?” I thought. But, once you get into adulthood, it’s impossible not to realize how fast life can pass you by, making it seem, indeed “short”; therefore, don’t spend the short time you have miserable at a job you hate, eating away your stress and not enjoying every minute of your life as it is. As you approach and explore your life in your early to mid-20s, ask yourself the following:
- Are you happy at your job or are you just working to make a living?
Sometimes we don’t see our day jobs with the level of magnitude we should. The jobs we choose are a huge part of our lives; therefore, don’t limit yourself to where you’re comfortable, but miserable. Find a place that makes you happy, because when you’re happy, you make better decisions, when you make better decisions, you tend to work on yourself, and when you work on yourself you become unstoppable! And, well when you’re unstoppable, the world is yours!
- Are you taking care of yourself mentally?
It has never been more important to take time each day to unwind and reflect on ourselves. Life can be busy, stressful, and unpredictable to say the least. We must take time to reach our happy place and let everything go for a few minutes. It’s the brains way of recharging in order to get things back in order and ready for another day. You probably charge your phone every night, right? Let’s not forget to recharge ourselves as well.
- Are you taking care of yourself physically and internally?
Are you still skipping breakfast, like those high school days, eating a bag of chips when you’re hungry in between meals, or slouching on the couch for hours, binge watching your favorite show? Although these things might not be so harmful done occasionally, they are harmful if done often. The older we get, the more important it is to fuel our bodies with the right nutrients and exercise! Fruits, vegetables, proteins, healthy fats, plenty of water, and staying active. The more we take care of ourselves earlier on, the better chance we have to live disease-free lives in the future.
- Are you focusing on the present or worrying about the past?
“Don’t look back, you’re not going that way.” We tend to dwell in the past forgetting that the time has gone and we have the present and future in front of us. Don’t dwell on the past. Allow yourself an allotted time to be upset, but move past it once the time expires. Accept the fact that you cannot change anything about the past, there are no time machines, get over it. One thing you can do, is change what the future holds. Get out in front of it and own it baby!
- Last, but not least, are you in control of your life?
Yes, are YOU in control of your life? No, the aliens don’t control your life, neither do other people, or abstract forces. YOU do! You get to make every decision that regards your life and how you want to live it. You choose if you want to be angry for 1 minute or 1 day, you choose what you eat, you choose what you wear, you choose how you want to feel daily. YOU are able to control your life, so are you? If not, now is the time! Don’t spend any more time wishing you could do something, get out and do it! Put yourself in CONTROL!
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