Have you ever thought “I’ll be happy once _____ happens”? Maybe it was finish school, or see a particular part of the world. The question is – was the happiness lasting? Sure you were happy on graduation day or when you were on the beach sipping on a cocktail, but what happened six months afterwards? Were you still happy that those things occurred, or had you shifted your focus to another source of happiness?
Thich Nhat Hanh says “there is no way to happiness – happiness is the way.” Instead of waiting for something to make us happy, why can’t we just be happy along the way? People like Louise Hay and the late Wayne Dyer believe that happiness is a choice. Regardless of what is happening in any given present moment, we can choose to be happy. We are encouraged to see the blessing in even the most difficultt situations.
While some may say this is easier said than done, what is the alternative? We could continue to wait for people, places and things to give us happiness, knowing that it isn’t going to last. It may seem a bit unrealistic to think that we can choose to be happy when facing the death of a loved one or some other emotional loss, but this isn’t the point when considering being happy for no reason. The point is to not allow our negative emotions to swallow us whole when we experience them. It’s about not giving the power to control our happiness to any thing or one but ourselves.
Happiness is a state of mind. It isn’t about anything else but us. It’s about detaching from material objects, relationships or experiences as a source of happiness. If we want to have sustainable happiness, we have to be happy with ourselves, by ourselves. We were born awesome – everything else is just the cherry on top!
Now signing off with the reminder: Don’t wait for the world to recognize your greatness, live it and let the world catch up to you.